Gill Moakes 0:00
Welcome back to the heads together podcast. Thanks for joining me again, so this week, I want to talk a bit about courage, about bravery about being brave. I think we're in a world right now, where we're almost being told that like, nothing should be difficult, right? It feels like in this modern digital age, we've almost become resistant to anything that requires a real effort. Anything that's difficult, or that needs patience and persistence. It's like we're being told all the time that if it feels that way, if it feels hard, we must be doing it wrong. But here's the thing. I don't think that's true. I'm gonna share with you today why I believe that that's the right way to look at things, in my opinion, as always. Alright, let's go. Welcome, welcome to the heads together podcast, I'm Gill Moakes. And I am obsessed with cutting through the noise when it comes to growing your business each week via intimate coaching conversations and inspirational stories, I share what it really takes to get the results you want, in a way that feels right to you. I am all about attracting higher ticket opportunities, building authentic relationships, and creating the abundant full fat version of your dream business. I mean, how many of us have even away creating a light version of what we really want? The thing is, I honestly believe, when you're outstanding at what you do, there is no limit to what you can achieve. So are you ready to put our heads together and make it happen? Let's go.
Gill Moakes 2:07
First feels like we're being encouraged to reexamine everything we're doing. Everything that feels hard. Because we're told that we shouldn't be finding things difficult. And that if we are as we're growing our businesses, we must be doing something wrong. Because everything should feel like it's in flow. Everything should feel easy. Everything should come naturally. You know, and if it doesn't, you must be doing it wrong. I really don't think that's true. I also think it's a dangerous message to send out that everything's easy that building a business is easy. Because the truth is that certainly, launching a business can be easy, right? But building it, growing it, nurturing it into a successful sustainable business. That's hard. That takes effort. It's difficult. It needs persistence. But we are bombarded with the media, talking about quick fixes. There's a hack for everything. overnight success, things being effortless, on and the big one, the big one passive income, right? Like you sit back and the money just rolls into your bank account. I just want to stop for a minute. And just think about when something isn't easy. It doesn't mean it's not doable, or that it's impossible, or that it should feel crazy hard. But it isn't effortless. Building a Business isn't effortless. It isn't a case of simply closing your eyes and clicking your fingers to manifest a successful business. And if that doesn't happen for you, then you're on the wrong track. You know, you need to try something different or pivot or just quit. Right. And the good news is, I do think that we are starting to reconnect with something that we've kind of really known deep down inside us and that is that some things in life are easy and come easily to us flow to us. But other things in life and in business are difficult. They take effort. They require discipline and persistence. And probably above all that they require some courage, the bravery to do things that are outside of your comfort zone to push yourself to become uncomfortable. So if that's something that you struggle with, if you start to doubt whether you can do something, as soon as it gets hard, then I want you to really think about this. Think about bringing your biggest vision for your business to life, it is going to require courage, it's a non negotiable, you're going to need to do things that really push you outside that comfort zone. And here's the thing, when you stop playing small, and start really working on that full fat version of your dream business, you know, I always talk about, like, quit building the light version of what you really want, you know, it's time to go all in, go for that low fat abundant version of what you want the real thing you want.
Gill Moakes 6:00
And when you do that, you are going to come up against challenges, you are going to have to make big decisions, you're going to have to take risks. And you're going to have to overcome conflicts from time to time, right. But here's the thing, by accepting that, as part of the journey, by accepting that those are things that are going to come up, and that you're going to have to navigate. And by meeting those things head on, that's when we start to break down the wall of fear. Okay? Because courage and bravery are cultivated by being exercised like a muscle. So what I mean by that is, when you repeatedly face things that scare you, and take action anyway, it gets easier every time to do that, again, every time you take action, in spite of fear, you're strengthening the muscle of bravery. And it's gonna get stronger and stronger, until you start getting pretty immune to some of the things you fear. It takes a lot more to scare you than it did at the beginning of your journey. Right? I'll be honest with you, every wildly successful business owner that I know is confident in their ability to figure stuff out. So even when something gets hard, even if they don't know the answer to something, and something doesn't come naturally to them, they still embrace the challenge. Because they know without any, like shadow of a doubt that they're more than capable of learning anything they need to take their business to the next level. They simply become resilient to challenges, because they get used to taking things on that are hard. And that's the key. That's how you exercise any muscle, right? You repeatedly do the same action until that muscle becomes stronger. So I don't know if you're a journal. But I'm not really a journal. I'm one of those people who wants to be a journal, but isn't really a journal. But then I'll go for like a week or so journaling religiously. And then I neglect it, and have journal regret. I write every day. But I don't say that I'm a consistent journal. But listen, if you are, then here's a couple of interesting prompts that you might want to try journaling around because I think this will be interesting exercise. One of them is what does being courageous mean to you? What are examples of things that would take courage? What does being courageous mean? And then, what are you struggling with at the moment? What are you currently avoiding that you could practice embracing? So have a think about what are the obstacles between what and how you're operating right now in your business? versus what you would need to do to take things to the next level? Is it that your wildest vision for your business includes I don't know, like, maybe it's a different offer, different service, something that you're not finding easy to put together? Is it that you would need to dramatically increase your pricing to be able to take your business to the next level? Maybe that's difficult for you. What are you avoiding, right now that you could practice in bracing? And really think about whether you're willing to cultivate that courage to bring that full fat business to life? Because here's the thing, there's no superhero, that's coming to step in and do it for you. The best business coach in the world cannot do the work for you. And this is something that's really important to understand that you can build up the most supportive team, hire the best coaches, take every programme, join every mastermind, do all the things, but really growing, that wildly successful version of your dream business has to come from you, is gonna come from inside you. It needs to be your original thoughts, your decisions, your big decisions, sometimes it's the risks you're willing to take to make it happen.
Gill Moakes 10:51
We can't delegate all of our decision making to others, however easy that sometimes makes things feel right. And it does, it does make it really easy. Sometimes. Sometimes, it's really comforting to just follow someone else, delegate the decision making to someone else and just follow in their footsteps. But honestly, if you have big goals for your business, which if you're listening to this podcast, I kind of know you do. I know there's stuff inside you that you don't necessarily share that you want to achieve. That isn't necessarily reflected by the business you have right now. Right? If you have got those big goals inside you, you're going to need to be brave, you're gonna need to learn how to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Because nothing genius ever came from inside of a comfort zone. People don't stand up and stand out from inside their comfort zone. And here's the thing, standing up and standing out in the world we're living in right now, in particularly the online business arena. It's another non negotiable, you need to stand up for something you need to stand up and be opinionated about what you believe. You've got to have an opinion, got to have an identity. And you need to stand out, you need that opinion and that identity to be completely representative of who you are as the business owner. And if you want a business that's going to break through that deafening noise of the internet, and make decisions to do things differently, to stand up and stand out, it takes courage. So have a think about the ways you could start exercising that bravery muscle. And like any exercise, start small start with something that you've been putting off, it's a great place to start. So two things I want you to do, especially if you are a journaler. These are really good things to journal around. If you're not just writing a post it note or something. But one thing is what struggle you're avoiding that you could practice embracing. And the second thing is, what big decision are you agonising over, that you could just complete, you could just make the decision. big decisions actually can be a lot of smoke and mirrors. And what I mean by that is that we have a definite decision to make. But we massively over complicate the decision making process so that we can procrastinate. Can you relate to that? The I don't know if that strikes chord it. It's definitely what I used to do a lot. I'm way better at not doing this now. But there was a time when if I had a big decision to make, particularly in my business, something that felt difficult something that was like, Oh, should I or shouldn't I? I would long for that crystal ball that was going to tell me which was the right answer, which was the right path to take. And so I would procrastinate so that I didn't have to make that decision right away. And the way I would do that is that I would invent a tonne of dependencies for that decision. So in other words, I would say things like, well, it's not worth me making that decision yet until I have x y z in place. Or and these will quite often be things that were just totally unrelated that weren't depends on or dependency at all for the decision that I was procrastinating on. So just keep an eye out for that if there's a big decision that you're wrestling with. are you procrastinating by inventing dependencies that way really need to be resolved before you can possibly make the decision. His chances are, that's just procrastination. And here's the thing, doing the brave thing, being courageous, sometimes it's about taking action. Even when you don't have that crystal ball that tells you which path to take, which one's going to represent the best outcome for you. That's what bravery is. And it's also a massive part of growing a successful business. I want to share a quote with you actually, which I love is from Mark Twain. Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.
Gill Moakes 15:52
Isn't that spot on? I really love that quote. Because the fear doesn't have to go away. You don't have to get to a place where you no longer fear something. Having courage to take action, in spite of fear is where you need to get to. It's accepting that some things when it comes to growing a business, some things are scary, some things don't feel comfortable. But cultivating courage allows you to take action anyway. Putting that one foot in front of the other in the direction of that big goal. Okay, as I'm recording this, it's the middle of May. And I'm just starting out on my own journey to write my first book. So sharing that journey is taking courage for me. And sharing the journey is something that I've committed to do. I've started a video diary, which I'm going to make available to my inner circle. So that's everyone on my email list people I engage with the most regularly. So I wrote the book proposal stage at the moment, I'm going down the traditional publishing route for my book. And you know, me, I'm all about radical transparency. So I'm like, really excited to share this whole journey from beginning right through to the end in terms of getting this book into the world birthing the book, as I keep calling it. But it's taking a lot of courage, actually, to share this, because I'm definitely I'm scared. I'm scared of the book, not being received in the way I'm hoping it will be. That's I'm frightened of. And that is taking me outside of my comfort zone. But as a business coach, I'm used to feeling really in control. And, yeah, this is not my comfort zone sharing about this. But I believe so wholeheartedly in transparency. And in this level of sharing with the people in my inner circle that yeah, I'm doing it, I'm going to be sharing every step of the journey, whether I'm laughing, crying or doing a happy dance. So that's why I've recorded this podcast this week. around this topic, Fortune favours the brave. I think it does. And I think that to get to where we really want to be what we really genuinely want, not the sanitised light version that we sometimes say we want. When we go all in for that full fat version. It is scary. It takes courage. But you can do it. You can go big, it's a choice. It's a choice, you get to make every single decision. And every single time you exercise the muscle of bravery is a choice that you're in control of. Okay, so listen, if you want to follow along my journey with the book right senior and you would like to catch up on that video diary each week. Then I'll pop a link in the show notes where you can sign up or just visit my website and jump on the email list. Okay, that's at gillmoakes.com Alright, have a fantastic week. And until next week, bye for now. I hope you enjoyed this episode, and that getting our heads together this week has filled your mind with what's possible. If you love the show, would you do me a massive favour please? Would you leave a five star rating on Apple podcasts? It would really help me put more heads together which will ears and expand more minds. Until next week bye for now.
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